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The Retirement Line Item Nobody Budgets For: Adult Kids

The Retirement Line Item Nobody Budgets For: Adult Kids

At seven, our son planned to build a nest in a Japanese maple so he could live there with his wife and ten kids and stay close to Mom and me. A decade later, the nest became an apartment in Tucson. Here are three conversations that can help you launch your adult kids before you leave full-time work.

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7 Questions to Ask in Building Your Downshift or Retirement Budget

7 Questions to Ask in Building Your Downshift or Retirement Budget

On a cave tubing trip in Belize, I heard our guide tell another guide in Spanish to watch for snakes. Nobody else caught it. That’s what good guides do. Here are seven questions I’m working through as I build my retirement budget, and the culebras I’ve found beneath the surface.

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Five Financial Decisions That Made My Downshift Possible

Five Financial Decisions That Made My Downshift Possible

I was fourteen, shivering in a borrowed tent on the Appalachian Trail in a waterlogged cotton sleeping bag, too proud to ask my dad, a retired Marine, for the gear that was sitting in our basement. Thirty years later, here are the five financial decisions that made my downshift possible, and the lesson it took me a cold night on a mountain to learn.

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The Sequence That Determines Whether Your Retirement Lasts (And How to Sleep Through the Chaos)

The Sequence That Determines Whether Your Retirement Lasts (And How to Sleep Through the Chaos)

I graduated from graduate business school in May 2007 into a city buzzing with possibility. By 2008, I was watching people carry file boxes out of high-rise towers. What I learned about markets in that season, no classroom ever taught me. This post is about the one retirement math concept most people skip entirely, and the three protections that let you sleep at night when markets do what markets inevitably do.

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